On March 25, I successfully defended my final project for my D.Min. When I began work toward this degree in the fall of 2016, I thought that I would occasionally post about what I was doing. The truth is that I had little time for posting between working on the degree, teaching several classes at a time, and working an additional job to keep bills paid. I asked Kevin in the beginning if he was feeling unsettled about my journey into this program. He said, “We can handle this. But can we still have breakfast for dinner once in a while?
We had breakfast for dinner frequently, especially when things were stressful and we needed to be still. It was usually our meal at the end of my intensive week. We also had it tonight, to mark the return of stillness after the big day yesterday.
Every once in a while, the wonder hits me: we have managed to get through this without major stress to our relationship. If anything, I think we have become stronger as we have learned how to care for each other while both of us have experienced stress during this period.
My best advice for couples handling graduate school and life is to lean in ot each other and trust in God. Be honest about your feelings, and make time for self-care and relationship care. Do whatever is the equivalent of having breakfast for dinner in your relationship. Find something that is your anchor, and use it to bring yourselves together when you need each other most.
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